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The situation in India is grim, and we are all affected by it in some ways. But we are all in this together, and if you need any help, please reach out. Twitter has been beneficial in finding resources as well.
In these tough times, many have to lose their loved ones too. I had experienced such a loss early in my life, and I want to share my experience thereafter.
7 YEARS SINCE LOSING MY FATHER
Every year on May 3rd, I order a dark chocolate ganache cake, light it up with blue candles, and cut into it along with my mother. We do not make any wishes while blowing out the candles. We remember the person it is for -- my father. It is his birthday, which we have celebrated for seven years just as we would if he was alive.
I have come to understand birthdays with a different meaning. It is a day when we celebrate the privilege of living another 365 days on Earth. Life can be very fickle, and many are not fortunate to witness each birthday: for me, it is a day for gratitude and reflection.
Every year, on my father’s birthday, I remember him and reflect on what he would think about the woman I have become.
The Transformational Effects of Bereavement
Bereavement or losing a loved one is a trauma that is most disturbing and life-changing. Yet it is the truth of life, and we all have to go through it one day or another.
Steve Taylor, a Ph.D. and senior lecturer in psychology at Leeds Beckett University, UK, conducted a study in 2017 specifically on bereavement. He investigated its transformational potential, including spiritual growth.
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Until next week,
Gayatri Taley