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Hello!
The past week flew past quickly, and I am here again to speak to you! I am so happy to get the issue out on a Thursday finally. The daily atomic writing is going great and helps me build a habit and articulate my ideas better.
Writing is the best form to get clarity to your thoughts. I wrote down my ideas and sleep on them for the night. The next day when I read, I am more detached from the work and can edit it more objectively. I am loving to explore these nuggets of creativity and sharing with you all.
Fear of Confrontations
All of us have specific fears that cripple us, and we want to avoid them.
For me, it is confrontations in my personal life. In my professional life, I can handle them just fine. Because there it is more about the situation and not me. But in private life want to avoid them in any case.
I get overwhelmed, cry, and eventually just shut the matter under the rug. Even the lead-up to it makes me sweat. I try to deflect it by reconsidering my views to remove the conflict altogether.
I fear confrontation because I fear disappointing the other person, not living up to their expectations. I am not fulfilling the expectations I have of myself as well.
Just after high school, my best friend moved to a new city. With all-new changes, we drifted and had little time for each other. I had started to notice the signs early on. But I avoided voicing them as I felt that would lead up to conflicts. I would not be giving her space and burdening her. So the small things kept building up, and by the time I brought it up, it was too late. We had a massive confrontation and did not speak for years after that.
My fear was a significant reason. If only I had confronted her on the small things, we would have salvaged the situation better.
Even today, I struggle with confronting my friends and family. I try to rationalize the situations and do self-confrontation exercises to overcome them.
Conflict is faced in every relationship, and to keep it healthy, I need to speak the truth and work around it with the other person. I am building myself up not to fear the confrontations but fear what happens if I don’t speak for myself.
Biggest Confrontation in Life: Marriage Story
I watched Marriage Story early last year. All praised Scarlett Johanson and Adam Driver’s performances, and it created a lot of talks all over the internet.
For me, the film stood because it brought out the different shades of emotion beautifully. Getting a divorce can be highly challenging, and the film makes the viewer feel every emotion. The confrontation scene will give you goosebumps. But the end still is hopeful, and we know that the marriage broke off, but the family still loves each other.
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Until next week!
Gayatri